As friends and associates disclose their cancer diagnosis, its often difficult to know what to do or say. It was interesting to see how Hollywood figures behaved in a public moment when Michael Douglas was on David Letterman’s show. Douglas, who was recently diagnosed with stage four throat cancer, seemed optimistic, yet aware of the challenging impact his treatment will impose. He explained to David and the audience that he anticipates an 80 percent chance of recovery and is thankful the cancer hasn’t spread. At the end of the interview, with the candor Letterman is known for he said, “I feel like I wanna do something for ya. Can I do something for ya?” To which Douglas replied , “You can give me a hug.”
With all the “reality shows” broadcast on TV, this seemed to be a genuine slice of reality displayed for public viewing. Sure these two men have learned how to behave for the cameras, but Douglas still has cancer and Letterman openly asked how to help. This scenario could take place between any two people anywhere, with the same honesty in not knowing how to provide support.
Sometimes people who are newly cast in the role of a support person feel they need to have the answers, and that just isn’t so. What have you experienced as a support person that others new to the role can learn from? Are there tips you picked up along the way? Please share your thoughts with the group!